Which Love Language is most important to you?

Words of Affirmation: The tongue has the power of life and death.”

Everyone enjoys compliments but some people require more reassurance and encouragement than others. To the people who need you to voice how much you love and appreciate them often, words of affirmation are most important.

Quality Time: “It’s only quality when the attention is undivided.”

Some people are loners and mostly enjoy quality time with themselves. Others find quality time with their lovers to be one of the most important aspects of a relationship. I personally love being around my boyfriend, especially when we both have nothing to do. Interactions are so much more pure when you genuinely want to be around each other.

Receiving Gifts: “The Heart of Love is the spirit of giving”

Gifts are often ways to prove that someone was thinking of you and this is important for some people and often seen as the way to prove your love. Material items also sometimes hold very important memories of you and your significant other. People who value these things find receiving gifts are what makes them most happy.

Acts of Service: “I simply do things I know he would like.”

Acts of service are not always grand gestures. Its the little things that often count the most in relationships. When someone’s primary love language is acts of service they are often the type of person who finds the sentimental value in simple things like Netflix & Pizza with the one that they love.

Physical Touch: “Touch is the way the to communicate emotional love.”

Being near your lover is the most important factor for those whose primary language is physical touch. Knowing that they are there, even in silence is comforting to you and the way that you feel truly loved.

 

XOXO Natalia

 

 

How do you get out of the “Friend-zone”?

Ask Questions

People often fall into the friend-zone because they are afraid that asking certain questions will make the other party uncomfortable or ruin their chances. Realistically, inquiring if you’re on the same page as someone else will only make them uncomfortable if they don’t feel the same way and in that case you wont wasting anymore time fantasizing or wondering what could be.

Assert Yourself

How is anyone going to know how you feel if you don’t speak up for yourself? Closed mouths don’t get fed so you have to voice your opinion. People usually get friend zoned when they are not aggressive enough, don’t get handsy, but let your feelings be known so that the other person can decide how they feel about you.

Be Honest

Sometimes we already know when someone just doesn’t like us romantically. Its not that hard to read people so don’t avoid the signs. If you flirt and they seem uncomfortable or if you invite them out one on one and they are always doing something else or don’t seem too excited by the idea, just be friends!

 

XOXO Natalia

Which Love & Hip Hop character are you?

 

Your man surprises you when you get home, with what?

  1. Money ( The best gift in the world)
  2. Some gossip (He know you love fresh hot tea)
  3. A stripper pole (So y’all can get it poppin at the crib)
  4. He just came home (You love him and missed him so much)
  5. Jewelry (That’s the life of a wife)

Ya’ll plan a date night, where?

  1. Karaoke/Open Mic (You love attention)
  2. Double Date (You want to catch up with your other friends)
  3. Strip club (Your fave place!)
  4. You stay in (he likes being home with you)
  5. Fancy Restaurant (He knows you have good taste) 

Your friends have one word to describe you, what do they use(BE HONEST)?

  1. Fiesty
  2. Nosey
  3. FUN
  4. Naive
  5. Boujee

You dress up to go out, what do you wear?

  1. Something that show’s maximum skin
  2. Something that makes you look younger
  3. Something that shows off all your curves
  4. Something simple
  5. Something expensive

Relationship Status ?

  1. Single
  2. Dating
  3. Pimpin
  4. Complicated
  5. In a Relationship

 

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Joseline Hernandez

If you answered mostly 1’s you are like “The Puerto Rican Princess” spicy with a side of mild. You normally don’t take shit and your temper is easily flared but to the one’s you love you are super sweet.

 

 

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Karlie Redd

If you answered mostly 2’s you are probably the queen of mess in your group who gets the most shade. Stop telling everyone’s business girl!

 

 

 

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Cardi B

If you answered mostly 3’s you are the most turnt in your circle of friends. People usually call you for advice because they know that you will tell them what they wanna hear. You’re really cute so girls usually wanna beef with you “FOREVAAAA”.

 

 

Tara Wallace lhh4

If you answered mostly 4’s you are probably stuck in a situationship that just might last forever. You are the girl who has the had the same man forever but instead of envy, people feel sympathy for you. Let him go sis.

 

 

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Yandy Smith-“Harris”

If you answered mostly 5’s more than likely  you are bougie. Your life is just better than everyone elses in your opinion and thats just how you feel. You are also super shady and two faced. Pick a side and stay there.

 

Cardi B is personally my fave! How about you?

 

XOXO Natalia

Why are you single?

I recently asked a handful of my friends why they were single and their answers were so similar yet the same that I decided to share them.

  • “Because I’m emotionally unavailable”

This is a very popular answer amongst our generation due to our need to create internal barriers to keep people out and avoid intimacy. If you’re emotionally unavailable it’s most likely a good idea to stay single until you are ready in order to spare feelings and avoid wasting time.

  • “These hoe’s ain’t loyal”

To believe that “hoes” aren’t loyal may be valid because a hoe is a hoe is a hoe. However, many people believe that all men and women are the same and would rather be alone then try and guess if someone is going to treat them right. It is important to give people a chance, people always reveal who they truly are with time.

  • “Im working on me”

This one is my favorite and I wish that most people actually meant it. Working on yourself is one of the most important parts of life and it can be a critical step in becoming the best person you can be. However, many people use “Im working on me” as an excuse to explain a failed relationship, a way to bandage loneliness, a way to hide the fact that they have been hurt, the list goes on and on. You can work on yourself successfully in or out of a relationship, the most important part is actually finding your issue and truly trying to fix it. Almost everyone is a work in progress no matter the relationship status. Its OK, just be honest.

  • “God is still getting my Husband ready for me”

I actually laughed out loud when I heard this one, It caught me off guard. It’s great to have faith in a higher power because the law of attraction is real and praying and speaking things into existence always results in success. If you believe that this is your season to be single because something better is ahead, make use of your time. If you believe that god is getting your husband ready then you should be preparing yourself as if someone feels the same way about you. If God is getting your soulmate ready be sure that your are ready for them.

XOXO Natalia,

5 Signs they’re just not that into you.

You are always planning things that never happen

If someone really wants to see you then meeting up wont be like pulling teeth. When you find yourself being constantly cancelled on or rescheduled you just might be dealing with someone who doesn’t want to hang out. Either way, BOSS UP and stop begging for their time. You can do better.

You get left on read or sent to voicemail a lot

Although some people are, not everyone is an all day everyday texter and you cant expect for anyone to be glued to their phone ready to respond to you at the drop of a dime. However, if you are being ignored via text message for hours on end and sent to voicemail most of the time you call, the person you are trying to reach probably wants to be left alone (at least by you. sorry). So, stop waiting by the phone because there is a 99.9% chance its not going to ring.

You make more of an effort

If it seems that you are always compromising, being the bigger person, or turning the other cheek you may want to look into getting some reciprocity. Dating is an equal effort despite popular opinion. Yes, the man (or whatever your preference) is supposed to court the woman but she is supposed to show equal interest in him. When you get that funny feeling that you have been getting the run around, YOU HAVE. So, move on to someone whose on your level.

You don’t know any of their family or friends

If you are an important part of someone’s life than you should be introduced to the most important people in their life. People often show off what is important to them, good grades, a new job, car, or house, and a new partner. If the family and friends don’t know about you then you should be questioning why you’re being hidden.

They don’t remember important facts about you

No one is going to remember every single little detail about you except your mother (maybe not even her). However, if you’re dating someone and they can’t even remember your birthday or hometown, they probably aren’t listening to you when you speak.

 

If your dealing with any of these types of problems, don’t. When you know better you do better!

XOXO Natalia

Last minute Valentine’s Day gift ideas he or she will love! (when you just started dating)

It’s February 13th and you haven’t bought anything for that special someone!? Well, here are a few things that anyone would love!

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Heated Blanket because everyone loves blankets and heat makes everything more cozy in the winter months. Perfect combo!

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Uber gift card because even people with a car uber sometimes and it isn’t always cheap.

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Your favorite book because sharing your favorite piece of writing may reveal that you two have more in common than you think and make for great dinner conversation.

 

AND FINALLY………….

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You can’t go wrong with a beautiful dinner when you’re just starting out (unless of course you are dating an extremely picky and needy person and in that case good luck) so pick a place you’ve both never been with a menu that you can both enjoy. This is a great gift in itself because Valentine’s Day is most importantly about spending time with the one you love (or like a lot! :).

 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

XOXO Natalia