“Where are our girls?” A guide to walking down the street as a woman.

  • Carry Protection

It is legal to carry mace or pepper spray that was acquired outside of DC. I suggest all women carry mace and a small knife with them at all times, I also carry a taser, but that is illegal here in DC. If you do not own any of these items and want to feel safer, take your keys out and place each key in between your fingers to create sharp brass knuckles.

  • Be aware of your surroundings

Always be alert when walking anywhere. Keep your phone in your hand but only to call for help in case of an emergency, it ‘s not a good idea to walk around scrolling or texting, this makes you not only an easy target, but it can cause you to partake in accidents like falling or getting hit by a car. Also, if you are surveying an area and find that someone seems suspicious it is a good idea to begin putting together a profile of them. For example, male, tall, blonde hair, blue eyes, tattoo of a snake on his neck, etc. This will allow you to help police find the creep in case anything happens to you or someone else.

  • Always let someone know where you are going

It is always important for someone to know where you are going and what you are wearing in case you become missing. My mother would always make sure to look at me every day before I left the house in case she had to describe my clothes to police. Also, send text updates to your loved ones if you are going somewhere that you normally wouldn’t or with someone you don’t really know. Before a date, a friend of mine would always send me the name of the person she was with and a description of him along with his license plate number if she could.

BE SAFE!

XOXO Natalia

Is Social Media affecting your relationships?

In the age of social media you sometimes have to look up from your phone and ask yourself some serious life questions.

Let me help:

Do you look at your phone while people are talking to you?

Do you text during dates?

Do you take a picture of everything you eat?

Do you check your phone when you wake up in the middle of the night?

DING DING DING! You my friend have an addiction if you answered Yes to one or more of those questions. This addiction may be holding you back in the following ways:

  • You may be missing connections

If you are always on your phone there is a strong chance that you are missing out on meeting great people everyday.

  • You may be ignoring your loved ones

When i’m out to dinner I always put my phone away so that my boyfriend gets my undivided attention and he does the same. Imagine how you would feel if someone started scrolling down their timeline while you were talking to them. RUDE!

  • You may be losing your interpersonal skills

Social media addicts often becoming socially awkward in real life settings because they are so used to sharing their thoughts to strangers via the internet. Don’t become the weirdo at the party in the corner on their phone all night.

  • You may be giving up too much information

People often begin to post about what they are currently watching, eating, reading, and sometimes even where they are going. This can be dangerous because of all the creeps out there who are lurking the internet. Certain things you should keep to yourself!

Put your phone down for a certain amount of time per day and participate in the REAL WORLD! 

XOXO Natalia

#WCW

It’s Woman Crush Wednesday AND Women’s History Month!

 

Meet Marilyn Mosby! Loving wife and mother of 2 little girls.

Marilyn Mosby is the State’s Attorney in Baltimore and she is responsible for charging the six officers involved in the murder of Freddie Gray. Although, charges were later dropped she made a huge statement in Baltimore and continues to work towards holding police accountable.

 

 

One Night Stand 101

Since Spring Break is over and I’m hearing tons of crazy stories from all my single friends about the fun they had with people from all over the world (This includes random sex in random places), I’ve decided to share some rules in helping you navigate One Night Stands.

  • DO NOT CALL THEM!

Calling the next day (or ever really) means that you want something more so if you don’t then leave things where they are- in your memories.

  • Leave as soon as you wake up

I don’t recommend you stay in the first place because cuddling is for couples but if it gets late and you don’t feel comfortable traveling then pick a side of the bed and stay there. Getting too comfy is a recipe for disaster.

  • No head

You shouldn’t put your mouth on anything that doesn’t belong to you. I don’t even like sharing drinks with anyone other than my boyfriend. Having oral sex with a random is a big no no and it’s just not safe so keep your mouth to yourself!

  • Do your best!

You will more than likely never see this person again, but just in case don’t leave a bad impression. Plus, you don’t want to become one of those horror stories that people tell at gatherings about the worst sex of their life.

  • Wear a condom.

This is a MAJOR KEY! Having sex with an unknown partner is dangerous enough, but not wearing a condom is deadly. So as they used to say on BET “Rap it up.”

 

Have fun and be safe!

 

XOXO Natalia

Date Rape Drug Detecting Nail Polish

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A post on the Undercover Colors Facebook page explains the product and its use:

While date rape drugs are often used to facilitate sexual assault, very little science exists for their detection. Our goal is to invent technologies that empower women to protect themselves from this heinous and quietly pervasive crime.

For our first product, we are developing a nail polish that changes color when it comes in contact with date rape drugs such as Rohypnol, Xanax, and GHB. With our nail polish, any woman will be empowered to discreetly ensure her safety by simply stirring her drink with her finger. If her nail polish changes color, she’ll know that something is wrong.

Why are you single?

I recently asked a handful of my friends “Why are you single?” and their answers were so similar yet the same that I decided to share them.

  • “Because I’m emotionally unavailable”

This is a very popular answer amongst our generation due to our need to create internal barriers to keep people out and avoid intimacy. If you’re emotionally unavailable it’s most likely a good idea to stay single until you are ready to spare feelings and avoid wasting time.

  • “These hoe’s ain’t loyal”

Many people believe that all men and women are the same and would rather be alone then try and guess if someone is going to treat them right. It is important to give people a chance because everyone reveals who they truly are with time.

  • “I’m working on me.”

This one is my favorite, and I wish that most people actually meant it. Working on yourself is one of the most important parts of life, and it can be a critical step in becoming the best person you can be. However, many people use “I’m working on me” as an excuse to explain a failed relationship, a way to bandage loneliness, a way to hide the fact that they have been hurt, the list goes on and on. You can work on yourself successfully in or out of a relationship, the most important part is actually finding your issue and truly trying to fix it. Almost everyone is a work in progress no matter the relationship status. It’s OK, just be honest.

  • “God is still getting my Husband ready for me.”

I actually laughed out loud when I heard this one, It caught me off guard. It’s great to have faith in a higher power because the law of attraction is real and praying and speaking things into existence always results in success. Therefore, If you believe that this is your season to be single because something better is ahead, make use of your time. If you believe that God is getting your husband ready, then you should be preparing yourself as if someone feels the same way about you. If God is getting your soulmate ready be sure that you are ready for them.

XOXO Natalia,

5 Signs they’re just not that into you.

You are always planning things that never happen

If someone really wants to see you then meeting up won’t be like pulling teeth. When you find yourself being regularly canceled on or rescheduled you just might be dealing with someone who doesn’t want to hang out. Either way, BOSS UP and stop begging for their time. You can do better.

You get left on read or sent to voicemail a lot

Although some people are, not everyone is an all day everyday texter, and you can’t expect for anyone to be glued to their phone ready to respond to you at the drop of a dime. However, if you are being ignored via text message for hours on end and sent to voicemail most of the time you call, the person you are trying to reach probably wants to be left alone (at least by you. sorry). So, stop waiting by the phone because there is a 99.9% chance it’s not going to ring.

You make more of an effort

If it seems that you are always compromising, being the bigger person, or turning the other cheek, you may want to look into getting some reciprocity. Dating is an equal effort despite popular opinion. Yes, the man (or whatever your preference) is supposed to court the woman, but she is expected to show equal interest in him. When you get that funny feeling that you have been getting the runaround, YOU HAVE. So, move on to someone who’s on your level.

You don’t know any of their family or friends

If you are an important part of someone’s life than you should be introduced to the most important people in their life. People often show off what is important to them, good grades, a new job, car, or house, and a new partner. If the family and friends don’t know about you, then you should be questioning why you’re being hidden.

They don’t remember important facts about you

No one is going to remember every single little detail about you except your mother (maybe not even her). However, if you’re dating someone and they can’t even remember your birthday or hometown, they probably aren’t listening to you when you speak.

 

If you’re dealing with any of these types of problems, don’t. When you know better, you do better!

XOXO Natalia