What Now?

CALLING ALL UNEMPLOYED SPRING GRADS OF 2017!!!!!!

College teaches you many things including how to navigate the workforce. I was so excited to take all that I’ve learned in school and make a career out of it. However, no such luck. I am still currently searching for a full time job and this stage in my life is something that college DID NOT prepare me for. So, if you are anything like me you are not alone. I know how you feel and I am here to help you cope with these tips:

1.Don’t get too comfortable: I know it’s tempting, no school = no class, homework, papers, exams, etc. You have to remember that doesn’t mean you no longer have responsibilities. Although, you do deserve a rest after the last 4 (or however many it took you to finish, no judgement!) years, you are an adult now and you can’t fall back on “I’m a student” anymore so get up and make something shake!

2. Find a “right now” job: If you don’t wanna be as broke as you were during school, surviving on top ramen and pizza, then you need to find what I call a “right now” job to support yourself until you land something more permanent. Don’t worry, this is completely separate from your career and can even be part time. Maybe a cashier at your local supermarket or a sales associate at your favorite clothing store, whatever it takes to keep you busy and put some cash in your pocket.

3. Review, Review, REVIEW: You may think your resume is rock solid and super informative of your amazing experience and education but you should review it as much as possible and be sure to cater your cover letter to each job posting in order to stand out. 90% of employers receive such a high volume of applicants that they run resumes through an ATS (Applicant Tracking System) so be sure to use keywords and phrases from each posting so the company robot won’t overlook your awesomeness.

4. Don’t get discouraged: I know it seems that you have applied for a record number of jobs followed by an astonishingly higher number of rejections but your dream job is out there waiting for you to make the right move. So, take your time with each application, make connections, know your worth, and never stand still.

We will be fine!!!!!!!!

XOXO Natalia

How do you get out of the “Friend-zone”?

Ask Questions

People often fall into the friend-zone because they are afraid that asking certain questions will make the other party uncomfortable or ruin their chances. Realistically, inquiring if you’re on the same page as someone else will only make them uncomfortable if they don’t feel the same way and in that case you wont wasting anymore time fantasizing or wondering what could be.

Assert Yourself

How is anyone going to know how you feel if you don’t speak up for yourself? Closed mouths don’t get fed so you have to voice your opinion. People usually get friend zoned when they are not aggressive enough, don’t get handsy, but let your feelings be known so that the other person can decide how they feel about you.

Be Honest

Sometimes we already know when someone just doesn’t like us romantically. Its not that hard to read people so don’t avoid the signs. If you flirt and they seem uncomfortable or if you invite them out one on one and they are always doing something else or don’t seem too excited by the idea, just be friends!

 

XOXO Natalia

Which Love & Hip Hop character are you?

 

Your man surprises you when you get home, with what?

  1. Money ( The best gift in the world)
  2. Some gossip (He know you love fresh hot tea)
  3. A stripper pole (So y’all can get it poppin at the crib)
  4. He just came home (You love him and missed him so much)
  5. Jewelry (That’s the life of a wife)

Ya’ll plan a date night, where?

  1. Karaoke/Open Mic (You love attention)
  2. Double Date (You want to catch up with your other friends)
  3. Strip club (Your fave place!)
  4. You stay in (he likes being home with you)
  5. Fancy Restaurant (He knows you have good taste) 

Your friends have one word to describe you, what do they use(BE HONEST)?

  1. Fiesty
  2. Nosey
  3. FUN
  4. Naive
  5. Boujee

You dress up to go out, what do you wear?

  1. Something that show’s maximum skin
  2. Something that makes you look younger
  3. Something that shows off all your curves
  4. Something simple
  5. Something expensive

Relationship Status ?

  1. Single
  2. Dating
  3. Pimpin
  4. Complicated
  5. In a Relationship

 

lhh1

 

Joseline Hernandez

If you answered mostly 1’s you are like “The Puerto Rican Princess” spicy with a side of mild. You normally don’t take shit and your temper is easily flared but to the one’s you love you are super sweet.

 

 

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Karlie Redd

If you answered mostly 2’s you are probably the queen of mess in your group who gets the most shade. Stop telling everyone’s business girl!

 

 

 

lhh6

Cardi B

If you answered mostly 3’s you are the most turnt in your circle of friends. People usually call you for advice because they know that you will tell them what they wanna hear. You’re really cute so girls usually wanna beef with you “FOREVAAAA”.

 

 

Tara Wallace lhh4

If you answered mostly 4’s you are probably stuck in a situationship that just might last forever. You are the girl who has the had the same man forever but instead of envy, people feel sympathy for you. Let him go sis.

 

 

lhh5

Yandy Smith-“Harris”

If you answered mostly 5’s more than likely  you are bougie. Your life is just better than everyone elses in your opinion and thats just how you feel. You are also super shady and two faced. Pick a side and stay there.

 

Cardi B is personally my fave! How about you?

 

XOXO Natalia

“Where are our girls?” A guide to walking down the street as a woman.

  • Carry Protection

It is legal to carry mace or pepper spray that was acquired outside of DC. I suggest all women carry mace and a small knife with them at all times, I also carry a taser, but that is illegal here in DC. If you do not own any of these items and want to feel safer, take your keys out and place each key in between your fingers to create sharp brass knuckles.

  • Be aware of your surroundings

Always be alert when walking anywhere. Keep your phone in your hand but only to call for help in case of an emergency, it ‘s not a good idea to walk around scrolling or texting, this makes you not only an easy target, but it can cause you to partake in accidents like falling or getting hit by a car. Also, if you are surveying an area and find that someone seems suspicious it is a good idea to begin putting together a profile of them. For example, male, tall, blonde hair, blue eyes, tattoo of a snake on his neck, etc. This will allow you to help police find the creep in case anything happens to you or someone else.

  • Always let someone know where you are going

It is always important for someone to know where you are going and what you are wearing in case you become missing. My mother would always make sure to look at me every day before I left the house in case she had to describe my clothes to police. Also, send text updates to your loved ones if you are going somewhere that you normally wouldn’t or with someone you don’t really know. Before a date, a friend of mine would always send me the name of the person she was with and a description of him along with his license plate number if she could.

BE SAFE!

XOXO Natalia

Is Social Media affecting your relationships?

In the age of social media you sometimes have to look up from your phone and ask yourself some serious life questions.

Let me help:

Do you look at your phone while people are talking to you?

Do you text during dates?

Do you take a picture of everything you eat?

Do you check your phone when you wake up in the middle of the night?

DING DING DING! You my friend have an addiction if you answered Yes to one or more of those questions. This addiction may be holding you back in the following ways:

  • You may be missing connections

If you are always on your phone there is a strong chance that you are missing out on meeting great people everyday.

  • You may be ignoring your loved ones

When i’m out to dinner I always put my phone away so that my boyfriend gets my undivided attention and he does the same. Imagine how you would feel if someone started scrolling down their timeline while you were talking to them. RUDE!

  • You may be losing your interpersonal skills

Social media addicts often becoming socially awkward in real life settings because they are so used to sharing their thoughts to strangers via the internet. Don’t become the weirdo at the party in the corner on their phone all night.

  • You may be giving up too much information

People often begin to post about what they are currently watching, eating, reading, and sometimes even where they are going. This can be dangerous because of all the creeps out there who are lurking the internet. Certain things you should keep to yourself!

Put your phone down for a certain amount of time per day and participate in the REAL WORLD! 

XOXO Natalia

Why are you single?

I recently asked a handful of my friends “Why are you single?” and their answers were so similar yet the same that I decided to share them.

  • “Because I’m emotionally unavailable”

This is a very popular answer amongst our generation due to our need to create internal barriers to keep people out and avoid intimacy. If you’re emotionally unavailable it’s most likely a good idea to stay single until you are ready to spare feelings and avoid wasting time.

  • “These hoe’s ain’t loyal”

Many people believe that all men and women are the same and would rather be alone then try and guess if someone is going to treat them right. It is important to give people a chance because everyone reveals who they truly are with time.

  • “I’m working on me.”

This one is my favorite, and I wish that most people actually meant it. Working on yourself is one of the most important parts of life, and it can be a critical step in becoming the best person you can be. However, many people use “I’m working on me” as an excuse to explain a failed relationship, a way to bandage loneliness, a way to hide the fact that they have been hurt, the list goes on and on. You can work on yourself successfully in or out of a relationship, the most important part is actually finding your issue and truly trying to fix it. Almost everyone is a work in progress no matter the relationship status. It’s OK, just be honest.

  • “God is still getting my Husband ready for me.”

I actually laughed out loud when I heard this one, It caught me off guard. It’s great to have faith in a higher power because the law of attraction is real and praying and speaking things into existence always results in success. Therefore, If you believe that this is your season to be single because something better is ahead, make use of your time. If you believe that God is getting your husband ready, then you should be preparing yourself as if someone feels the same way about you. If God is getting your soulmate ready be sure that you are ready for them.

XOXO Natalia,